My whole life, I’ve worried about what others thought about me.
- Would they like me?
- Was I clever enough?
- Did I have anything to say that they’d find interesting?
- What if they laughed at me?
I know that I am not alone in feeling like this, but it’s taken me nearly 48 years to realize this!!
We all worry about what ‘ they’ will think or say about us but actually who are they and does it really matter what they think or say?
Actually NO it doesn’t matter and I think that it’s time to say enough is enough.
The problem with this fear of being judged is that is stops you dead in your tracks. You may have spent hours designing, writing or making something for you business. You put your heart and soul into it and you’re excited to show others.
It’s finally ready, then…..one of these things may happen:
The little voice inside your head tells you to just ask someone first, what do they think?
If they laugh or even make a comment that you think shows they don’t like it then you STOP.
You decide to do ‘just a bit’ more research and see if anyone else has done something similar. You find out that they have and it’s great, in fact it’s brilliant and they’ve thought of other things that you haven’t. OMG I’m just rubbish.
Then you just can’t stop reading or watching and then you STOP because, what’s the point in you showing the world what you’ve made?
Or if you’re really brave you just put it out there and then start to get feedback.
If it’s negative it can affect your self-confidence and self-belief and again it makes you STOP.
The one that I found made me stop the most was if somebody else needed something or asked for my help. I’d put my life on hold so that I could be the ‘ kind, nice, helpful, good person’ they expected me to be.
What I was worried about was that they’d judge me as selfish or self-centered if I put myself first.
Being judged happens daily.
It won’t ever stop and you are just as guilty as others! Trust me, you will be watching and listening to people or reading their articles ( like this one ) and in your head you’ll be judging. Having an own opinion on who they are and if you like them or not.
You’re doing it right now as you read this!!
You may agree. You may disagree but what difference does it make. How can that actually harm that person?
If you don’t like it then you won’t engage ( or you might make a quick comment if it’s on Social Media!) and if you don’t like it then you will engage.
The great thing about that, for you, is the people you want to connect with – WILL CONNECT. Those that you don’t want to connect with, well they can just go their own merry little way.
Think about this.
If you don’t put yourself out there and you want to start or grow a business how is anyone going to find you?
So I say, This January. Enough is Enough. Don’t worry about ‘them’ worry about YOU.
Be yourself, say what you feel and Be Fearless.
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